Am I being too picky about dating guys?
I had a long relationship and it was good (but not kidding myself; obviously not good enough if it didn’t last) but I was picky and went with my gut about that and it turned into a solid 3 years I was proud about and was very happy with. I’ve had potentials since that I haven’t really given a fair chance (I think) because I haven’t felt in my gut its right. I have no intention of leading guys on, so should I go with my gut or should I go a little further than the first impressions?
…”potential”= as in someone I could see being attracted to but am too nervous to go any further because I assume, by certain qualities I’ve observed, that it wouldn’t be right.
**this is serious to me, I don’t need foolish answers**
I think I also get nervous about taking the chance then finding out it isn’t right. I hate to hurt people’s feelings.
I think that maybe what’s going on is that you’re comparing every potential date with your ex. I used to do that too, then i realized no one was gonna come close. So i had to let him go. It’s hard to do, but when you do manage to do it, it opens up your horizons to many people that would love to go out with you.
As far as observations, do go with your gut. If it sets off warning bells, tactfully let them go. We all have our imperfections; sometimes its hard sifting the imperfections from incompatibility. Take your time, listen to your heart and gut, and keep your eyes and ears open. You’ll make the right decision. Good luck with your dating. I hope you find the one that’s right for you.
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