Allowing my 11 yr old to sleep over @ bf house?
MY 11 year old daughter (she’ll be 12 in 7 months) has been dating her 13 year old boyfriend for 2 weeks now. I met the boy at the D.A.R.E awards for my daughter she’s in 5th grade. (suppose to be in 6th but she got held back)
He was very nice and seem very respectable. My daugther is a good girl and asked to stay his house this weekend. It would be her fist time ever spending the night away. His parents will be gone.. his 18 year old brother is in charge. My daugther assured me nothing would happen, all they are going to do is hang out and watch movies all weekend. I believe her but my husband (her step father) is arguing with me and telling me to not allow it. But it doesn’t matter what he has to say, it’s not his daughter i make the rules with her.
WHat would you do if you were in mypositionn? i trust her, I believe what she says.
Based on the way this question is written I’d safely guess that the poster is in fact not a mom but probably the 11 year-old trying to gain some leverage in arguing with her parents and secondly I can’t stomach the idea that an actual mother would have to even think twice let alone ask such a question.
First what needs to be tackled here is respect for your husband. I suspect he provides for you and your daughter — this gives him a right to make a decision and obviously he has the girls best interest so I’d stick with him and his parenting skills. Second, I don’t care if she turns 12 in 7 months or in a years time she’s 11 and even at age 12 wtf are doing allowing a girl that age to have a boyfriend? I don’t know why your girl got held back a grade that raises some sort of flag with me especially at 11. Grade school is a breeze but IDK the details there and it’s not important. More importantly why would even consider allowing a child to stay in the care of an 18 year-old boy? Now that is asking for trouble! Let me tell you in case you aren’t aware already girls are growing much quicker as are boys these days and kids who are pre-teens to teenagers are generally liars I don’t care how sweet or good they are you don’t want to take that risk. As a parent this should be automatic for you. You should trust her and believe some of the things she tells you but you have to remember she is a pre-teen, she is going to lie, and if not already is going to be going through puberty.. which means what? Sexual energy … LOTS OF IT. And if you give her that much leash you’re going to wind up with a pregnant 12 year-old.
You’re her parent not her friend you can have a great relationship but being a mom comes first and that means being strict and keeping your common sense. Remember your teenage years and remember it’s getting worse each year with kids.
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