Difficulty dating during before my divorce is final. Any advice?
I am going through a divorce and have reconnected with an old friend who definitely wants to date but doesn’t want to do it officially until my divorce is final. She is reluctant to date a married man (even though I won’t be in a few months). Is there any argument I can give her to see that my marriage is over (my spouse cheated on me) and all thats left is the legal wrangling
personally i believe a marriage is over when either of the parties breaks their vows to each other, the same way a partnership contract is ended when one partner steals from another. the paperwork is just for the lawyers and for the state and to make money out of us. i consider myself divorced from the day i walked out, but like you, i am waiting for the final paperwork, and for the state to decide when they think i should be declared divorced or not. my viewpoint, morals and ethics are between me and god, not between me and the state. unfort, many “divorcing” couples still try to rekindle old flames, and your lady friend has no way in knowing if you are one of them or not. she is protecting herself from any possible hurt, and like many, she probably views marriage as a legal state based institution, which she is entitled to. just continue to “be there”, lay of the pressure and be grateful for her support. a few months is no big deal – look forward to it – its good for the imagination lol. good luck
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