ex boyfriend’s friend. not very long…any input?
it’s obvious that my ex still has a thing for me, and always will, like i do for him. but i’m really tired of all his games and mixed signals…plus, he can’t date until next year. i’ve moved on a bit, and i’m ready to move on even further.
after we broke up i started talking to his friend alot which my ex didn’t want me to do when we WERE together. how stupid. as for his friend, it’s not like they’re THAT close…but they are friends. i’m kinda uneasy about going for his friend, even though he clearly likes me –he told me. like, i totally would, but i feel like i’d be breaking the unwritten rule of “don’t date your ex’s friends”. the thing is, my ex apparently like(s/d) MY best friend. but it doesn’t really phase me. i just don’t want him to think that i’m trying to get him jealous, or get back at him for liking my best friend because i’m not.
does that make sense? should i go for it? just looking for some input. thanks!
Ignore the rule of, “Don’t date your ex’s friends”.
You should date your ex’s friend if:
- you like the friend
- you’re not trying to be malicious
- you’re over your ex
- you’re not trying to get secrets on your ex
You shouldn’t date your ex’s friend if:
- the friend in question is a really close friend of his
- your ex is still into you
You have to understand that if you go for the friend, you’ve essentially taken a friend from your ex. It’s bad enough that he’s lost a girl, but to go for his friend is a brutal kick to the nuts. It’s not likely that the friend and your ex will be able to be friends if you date.
If you start dating the friend and your guy isn’t over you, the friend will become a third party between you two…that gets a little awkward.
I dunno, I’m dating an ex’s friend. But we get along and he isn’t a really close friend of my ex. They don’t hang out, so I don’t have to deal with my ex prying.
I honestly think it’s too soon for you. If your ex is still into you and it seems you still have a lot of frustration towards him. Honestly, if you really like the guy, then wait a little longer. If you go for him too soon, then all the drama and crap will make him want to leave.
If you want to move on, I suggest going for someone new. Date other people. Then maybe try at the friend.
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