Elliv island sim dating game help ?

ok in elliv island im already at exp 4000 and all i can do is talk to them what i mean is that when i press give or date the girls say no and im already at exp 4000 up to how many exp do i need 2 get or what do i do to date them or give them a gift ?

i’m wondering the exact same thing but i’m on just over 10,000 exp with ellie! i can give stuff to her now but i cant date. its so annoying :/