Are there some things you just don’t joke about?
I know some guys like to repeat jokes if they themselves like it.
I like jokes but for example I met a guy online who keeps saying he’s joking when he said he wanted me in pigtails, makeup, a dress and a chastity belt. Even though it was a ‘joke’ it made me extremely uncomfortable and all my friends saw it as a warning sign.
My close friend who is married makes jokes but his are clean. Such as his wife’s/my best friend’s birthday party he kept asking me what I got him. When I met a cool guy he says “cool I wanna date him!”
Those jokes are ok and I don’t feel threatened or weirded out. Can you explain why?
It’s all about how comfortable you are with the person.
Actually, it’s a ratio of Comfort With Person : Type of Joke.
“Guy I Met Online” : “Kinky Sex Joke” is not okay.
“Close Married Friend” : “Light, Just-Messin-With-You Joke” is totally okay.
For example, my boyfriend and his best friend make gay jokes all the time to mess with me. (”Sorry Kait, WE’RE going out this weekend so you’ll have to make other plans.”) But it’s not awkward or anything of the sort because I know and trust both of them and I can be sure they’re just kidding, with anything they joke about.
But when someone I barely know tries to make a joke like “kait that’s a cute skirt, but it would look better if it were half as short.. or off.” it doesn’t really fly with me. Mostly because it’s an awkward, degrading pickup line.
And of course there are some things you just don’t joke about. And we all know what’s not okay to try to turn into comedy.
I hope that helps somehow, because honestly that was like one big terrible persuasive essay. :/
Good luck!
– Kait
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