any tips on becoming successful on online dating?
is there any good opening line, or personal description that attracts a lot of guys? also, would it draw men away from me if i mentioned specific lifestyle i lead/aspire to lead and that i expect the same from men? like, i want the lifestyle of an urbanista, enjoys fine dining, opera, etc.?
there are some general etiquitte rules like:
DO set up an email account just for personals and use a Username that reflects your personality (without being way over the top).
DON’T send the same email to everyone. Personalize your messages by responding to things mentioned in emails and profiles. (No one wants junk mail–it’s a waste of time.)
DO reply to everyone who contacts you (you get a 1 week leeway). If you’re not interested, a simple “Thank you, but I’m unable to correspond with you at this time.” will do.
DON’T write people off right away. It takes at least a few emails to get a sense of someone.
DO be polite. Remember, there IS a person sitting on the other end of the wires.
DO use humor, especially if it’s a part of your offline personality, but be careful with it. Humor doesn’t always translate over the wires, and it’s difficult to gage how the recipient is responding. To set the tone, add an emoticon or two, like a 
or a 
.
DON’T say anything in an email that you wouldn’t say to someone’s face.
DON’T lie. Enough said.
DO start each email with a greeting (Dear, Hi, Greetings, Wassup?) and end with a closing (Sincerely, Regards, Cheers, ‘Til soon) and your name.
DON’T use profanity or tell off-color jokes.
DO have reasonable expectations and take it in stride if a relationship doesn’t work out. DON’T take things too personally-some people have no manners .
DON’T email someone’s ear off. In other words, don’t “talk” too much and don’t tell your whole life story right away. Leave something for when you get together.
DO ask questions to create an open-ended conversation.
DO respect the other person’s privacy. DON’T ask for personal contact information or answers to extremely personal questions right away.
DON’T push anyone. If they say they don’t want to communicate with you, need more time before opening up, or are not ready to meet in person, they’re not playing hard to get. Get it?
DON’T hesitate to ask someone out once you get the feeling that you’re both into it–use your intuition, just like you would offline. This applies to guys and gals alike. Traditional or non-traditional offline? Be true to yourself in the cyber-world–it’s real too.
If you’re interested, DO go out with someone you meet online, but start with a short date in a public place. That way, if your feelings differ offline, you have an easy out.
DO send a follow-up email after an offline date, whether it’s to say thanks, but no thanks, or to reaffirm how much fun you had.
DON’T string anyone along just because you don’t know how to say “no” or like the ego boost.
DO play the field. Just as long as you’re being honest and having fun, it’s okay to keep contacting as many people as you like until you find someone you’re interested in. After all, meeting new people is what dating is all about.
-i’m real! proof. [read description]
|
|
La Bella Vita: Live and Love the Italian Way $0.19 Carla Bruni. Giorgio Armani. Luciano Pavarotti. Giada De Laurentiis. Sophia Loren. The Leonardos (Da Vinci e DiCaprio). From fettucine to fashion and back again, nobody does La Bella Vita like the Italians. Whether preparing a meal or sculpting the David, singing an aria or seducing a lover, Italians take their time, and do it right–adagio! In this bellissimo primer, Romans Aminda Leigh and Piet… |
|
|
Questing France: Deepening the Search for My Holy Grail – Personal Growth Through Travel $20.87 Questing France is a very personal account of how Marilyn applies her expertise as a marriage and family therapist to her roles as a wife, mother, sibling, friend, and business woman. She addresses the issues of what makes a functioning marriage, facing betrayal, rebuilding trust, evaluating friendships and her own family relationships. Through self exploration and inspiring travel experiences, Ma… |